I say, you hear...

Good afternoon lovees!! HaPpY Monday!! As I lie here resting, listening to the rain, so many thoughts run through my head. But I want to focus on one, misunderstanding.

Ever play the game telephone?? That's a silly fun game, isn't It? And it teaches a lesson doesn't it. That things don't always get interpreted properly. It's so easy to get things misunderstood when playing this game. Much like in real life....

One of my favorite sayings is this....I'm responsible for what I say, not what you hear. That brings to mind another "game" I like to call he/she says, he/she hears. Ever say something to someone and later on that person is angry and you can't figure out why? Only to find out they misheard your words? Like a wife may say to a husband...I wish you didn't have to work, I need some time with you, I miss you. What she meant, I miss my man and wish I could have more time. What he heard, I hate that you are working and ignoring me and that your job means more. How about when a husband says to his wife...my mom makes the best lasagna. Yes, I know that's a silly reference. But, here's what happens...he literally was just saying he loves his mom's lasagna. What she hears is...you'll never measure up to my mom in the kitchen.

Both of the above scenarios have the potential to end badly. Because in both, the parties involved are hurt. And what do hurt people do? They hurt people. Intentially or not, it happens. These scenarios have the potential to rip apart a great relationship if not resolved. But if we can learn to use our words, and communicate when we hear something a little differently than what was said, we can save a whole lot of unnecessary hurt and anger. After all, communication is one of the most vital parts of a working relationship, is it not?

Next time you're faced with one of these situations, try using your words. Try asking questions to see if what you heard is actually what was said. You may find that you overreacted to something that just wasn't there. It's not always about winning. It's about the relationship and the needs of those within.

Have a blessed day friends!!!

Love and hugs...